Penny for your thoughts?

Been thinking, so our culture is either shaming people or encouraging people to not be different. Let me explain this better. So I'm watching a movie where there's a girl who doesn't want to come out as gay because she's afraid of being different, there's another girl who's afraid to feel comfortable in her own skin because she used to be what she thought of herself being fat and ugly. And there's this girl who's transgender and even after the changes she made to her body she still doesn't feel comfortable in her own body. At what point is it where we quit shaming people or telling people they have to be something else?

As I look at myself in the mirror in the morning I'm not the person I want to see. I want to see this confident, Beautiful, outgoing secure woman who doesn't care at all what others think of her. But instead I feel the opposite, I feel ugly, my thoughts are ugly on a daily basis, I fear a ton of stuff. Never being able to have a strong relationship that I know won't crush me or hurt me, I feel reserve on a daily basis to people and lastly I feel every inch of insecurity taking a hold of me.

 I spend a lot of time around children, probably more time than around someone my age and as I spend time with them, I teach them that people around us deserve our love and support, even if we think differently of them instead of mouthing their differences tell them what makes them beautiful. I remember taking one of my friends' 3 kids to the park and there was this guy wearing a dress and lipstick and the oldest of the kids whispered in my ears "I wish he knows he's beautiful." She's 4 and even though she was too scared to tell him that, hearing those were the words she choose to come out of her mouth instead of judging him as most people even me sometime made me stop and realize what she said was true. Men look at the outward appearances while God looks at the heart. She was looking at him through God's eyes and not as man sees him on the outside.

Even as I sit here writing, I know there's no answer in to how one is to make feel better about themselves, to stop people from shaming people or telling people how they need to be or to be differently than they are. We need each other to build each other up instead of tearing each other down.